A Reminder about Asking for Help and Remembering to Have Fun
Sep 09, 2025Confession: I have a very hard time asking for help, and also sometimes I have a hard time making time for simple fun 😬
There I said it. My too serious, hyper-independent, un-fun self is on display.
This looks like rarely (is 'never' too strong of a word? lol) reaching out to potential mentors, teachers, friends, peers, and family - and asking for help, advice, or support. This also looks like turning down help when it is offered 🙄 because I would rather deal with doing it on my own than the vulnerability of wondering if I am a bother or a burden.
On the fun part - this looks like forgetting to take true days off to do something that I simply enjoy with no other objective. Or feeling a sense of guilt and dread when I take downtime. This is a theme I have been working on for yearssss.
Okay, how are these themes related and why am I sharing them with you?
Physically, emotionally, and spiritually, they are related. These are behaviors and attitudes that are tight and constricted. They deny a sense of trust in the unfolding, they forget the inner child, and they restrict, rather than expand.
I have been very fortunate recently to have a few teachers/mentors enter into my world and invite me to reach out to them for mentorship and support. They have said, “I know this is something that is hard for you, but I WANT to be there for you, and you can trust that if I can't or don't want to be in that moment, I will let you know.”
Oy, what a true gift. As I am working on this theme, the teachers have arrived. How beautiful.
So, here are some questions and ideas to ponder:
- How do these themes show up in your life? Do you notice the energetic imprint of constriction and lack of trust?
- If this is something that you want to work on, is there one safe person you can reach out to? You don't even have to ask for help, you can let them know you are working on this and would they mind being someone you practice with?
- If this isn't hard for you, how does that feel in your body? and do you swing too far the other way? Always asking for help and diminishing your own sense of capability?
- And finally - can you make your pledge of presence to someone? Is there anyone in your life you can let know that you are there for them, and if they need xyz (you fill in the blank for what you are offering), they can call on you?
- Okay one more bonus: can you do one fun thing this week simply because you enjoy it?!
Remember: whether it is your yoga practice, therapy, healing chronic illness, spiritual study, etc. - the point is to live happier and healthier lives. If all you are doing is the ‘work’, you are missing the point.
The ‘work’ is necessary and important, but we must remember to enjoy the deeper presence we have cultivated, or the relationships we have worked so hard for, or the newfound health that we have.
So if anything, I hope this is a reminder that you are never alone, and you are allowed to enjoy your life!!
