Your Pattern: The Achiever

You lose yourself by turning life into something to accomplish.

You're driven.

You know how to set a goal, make a plan, push through, and make things happen.

Chances are, that drive has built a lot of the life you have today.

People may describe you as successful, purposeful, disciplined, or ambitious.

But there's a catch:

Achievement can become more than something you do. It can become the place you go to feel okay.

Learn more about your pattern and how to start to heal in this 7 minute audio message from Katie.

The Achiever

  • Your hidden pattern:

    When life feels stressful or uncertain, you get productive.

    You work harder.

    Set another goal.

    Improve something.

    Make the time useful.

    Even an empty Saturday can quickly become an opportunity to “finally catch up.”

    Productivity gives you a sense of movement and control.

    And underneath it may be a belief that sounds something like:

    “I'm only enough when I'm accomplishing.”

    Which means there is always one more invisible finish line between you and permission to exhale.

  • How you lose yourself:

    You don't necessarily neglect yourself.

    In fact, you might be extremely invested in yourself.

    You read the books. Take the classes. Set the goals. Exercise. Optimize. Learn. Grow.

    But even self-care can inadvertently become another place to perform.

    You can become so focused on improving your life that you rarely get to simply inhabit it.

    There's always a next version of you waiting somewhere in the distance.

    More successful.

    More organized.

    Healthier.

    Calmer.

    More disciplined.

    And maybe then you'll finally feel like you can relax.

    Except “then” keeps moving.

  • What you're really longing for:

    Underneath all that striving may be something surprisingly simple:

    Permission to stop without feeling guilty.

    To experience your life without needing to make something of every moment.

    To know you're still worthy when nothing is being produced, improved, measured, or accomplished.

    Your path home doesn't require becoming less ambitious.

    It's learning that your ambition can belong to you instead of you belonging to it.

Insight means nothing without doing something different.

Now you know a little more about The Achiever pattern.

But knowing your pattern isn’t enough. The next step is to practice the skill of coming back to yourself.

I've chosen a short practice for you from The Somatic Pharmacy based on your result.

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Your Prescription: A Restful Moment

A 6 minute practice from the Somatic Pharmacy


You’re good at doing. Setting the goal. Finding the next step. Pushing through.

And sometimes even rest becomes something to get right — something that should make you calmer, healthier, more focused, or ready to accomplish what comes next.

I chose A Restful Moment because this practice asks something different of you.

For the next six minutes, there is nowhere to get to and nothing you need to improve.

This moment doesn’t have to be productive to be worthwhile.

A Restful Moment

When to use this

Come back to this practice when you notice yourself pushing through because stopping feels harder than continuing.

Especially:

  • Between tasks when your instinct is to immediately start the next thing

  • When you’re tired but telling yourself you should keep going

  • After accomplishing something and already thinking about what’s next

  • When even your “rest” starts feeling like another thing to optimize

Afterward, notice

Before deciding what comes next, ask yourself:

What was it like to have a few minutes in which nothing was required of me?

You don’t need to feel completely rested for the practice to have “worked.” The practice is allowing the pause itself.

NOW YOU KNOW HOW YOU TEND TO LOSE YOURSELF.

Next: begin the journey home by discovering what matters to you

When you’ve spent so much of your life responding to what needs to be done, what other people need, or what’s expected of you, it can be surprisingly difficult to hear the answer to the question:

What actually matters to me?

Come Home is a short guided exercise designed to help you quiet some of the noise, reconnect with yourself, and listen for what you want your life to feel like in this season.

You don’t need to make any big decisions or figure out your whole life.

Just bring something to write with and give yourself about 15 minutes.

One question. Ten minutes of writing. A little more clarity about what matters to you.

COME HOME

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